My family is devastated today. Our daughter Rana has died, by her own hand. Rana was 36.
I’ve known Rana since she was 7, when I married her mom. Even though that marriage didn’t make it, I’ve kept a relationship with Rana. For those of you who knew us then, you remember Rana as Ross. She transitioned a few years ago.
This loss hasn’t fully sunk in yet and already it hurts like hell.
I already have most of January’s posts written and queued on this blog, and so things will go on here as if nothing is wrong. That will be the furthest thing from the truth.
May God give you peace. So devastating.
I’m sorry for your loss!
That’s a horrible start to the year. Our thoughts are with you.
May Rana’s spirit continue to shine through you and your family in the coming days, weeks, months, years. Sharing her story will keep her alive in your heart and memories. May Prayers of healing and acceptance be of some small comfort in these times of darkness and uncertainty.
My condolences for your loss. How I wish things were different for all of you. May you find or beginnen the strength you need, to carry you through the days and weeks to come.
Sorry, I meant to write ” be given” instead of “beginnen”.
I’m terribly sorry for you and your families loss
No words.
I’m so sorry, Jim. We pray that the Lord will give you comfort and peace and be very present with you and your family. I was getting ready to comment on some of your articles (positive!), but will wait a few days. LaRue Bennett (Just joined your group and shared an interest in Traders Point)
My condolences Jim. I am so sorry for your loss. My heart reaches out to you.
Sending a little prayer for you, for Rana and your family.
I lost my best friend the same way last year, I feel your pain.
All my love…
Jim, I’m thinking of you and your family. Such a loss lasts a lifetime. I’m so sorry.
So sorry to hear this Jim. Prayers for you and your family. 🙏
Oh no Jim, Im so, so sorry for you and all your family, how awful. Sending massive hugs and all my love
Oh, Jim, I’m so sorry. Nothing I can say will have much power, other than to say, it matters. I really am so sorry.
I am so sorry to hear about your loss, Jim. My condolences to you and your family.
Oh, so sorry for your loss … prayers for you and your family.
Your loss is devastating, I can only imagine. May happier times w Rana and your family hold you close as you maneuver through this difficult time.
My heart hurts for Rana and all she has touched. May her memory be a blessing.
I’m so very sorry to hear of your loss Jim. I really don’t know what to say other that my heartfelt condolences and thoughts are with you and your loved ones. Take care of yourselves.
My deepest sympathies, Jim; our children should bury us.
So sorry for your loss, Jim.
There is nothing that can be said beyond “I’m sorry”, and even less than can ease the pain save time.
May God wrap his loving arms around you and your family and give you comfort and peace during this most difficult time in your lives.
Oh gosh. My heart breaks for you and Rana’s friends and extended family, Jim. I’m so very sorry for your loss…
My condolences to you and your family.
I am so incredibly sorry, Jim. You and your family are all in my thoughts and prayers.
My deepest condolences and sympathy in your loss. Words cannot express my feelings.. I am so sorry. \
From a very warm New Zealand
Sorry for your unexpected loss.
Jim, I have no words beyond that I am terribly sorry. You and your family will be in my prayers.
So very sorry to hear this Jim. I can think of nothing worse to suffer. Thoughts with you.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this tragic time.
Jim, so sorry, this is devastating news…
This is sad news. My deepest condolences to you and your family. I will keep you all in my prayers.
So soory for your loss.
I am so sorry
Dear Jim and family, so sorry for your loss and the pain it must be causing.
Jim, nothing i can say will help, i can’t really begin to imagine how you feel. Sometimes words are so inadequate. I am so very sorry. My thoughts are with you and your family. Andy
I am so, so sorry to hear this. What a heartbreaking way to start the new year. I hope you will surround yourself with the support you need at this time. Remember that the Suicide Prevention Lifeline also works with family members who have lost a loved one to suicide: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/help-yourself/loss-survivors/ .
Thank you for that link.
My heart aches for you & family in the loss of this child.
I can’t pretend to know how you feel, or what to say. Blessings from New Zealand.
I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. Such terrible news. There are no words. Thinking of you and yours at this time.
I am very sorry. I’ll keep you and your family in prayer Jim.
Jim, I am so sorry for you, her, family. No words can express feelings at this time. Take care.
Truly sorry for your loss. Condolences and prayers from Carmel.
A big hug Jim. Heart skipped a beat or two reading this, can’t even imagine what it feels right in the family.
I’m so sorry to hear about this Jim.
I’m so, so sorry.
I am truly sorry to read this. My prayers are with you and your family during this very difficult time.
I’m so sorry for your loss. As a parent who lost an adult child, my heart hurts for you.
Sorry for your loss. A devastating way to begin the new year.
Oh Jim, I’m so sorry that your family must bear yet another tragedy. Hold on to each other.
Oh, Jim. There are no words. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Sad for you, Jim. So sad to read this. Reach out if you need anything.
I am so sad to hear of your loss.
I am so very sorry about your loss. I wish you all the strength right now and some calm time to mourn.
My deepest condolences for your loss…
Condolences …
I’m so deeply sad to hear this, Jim. Healing mercies to you and your family as you journey through this heartbreak, and may Rana’s memory be a blessing.
Am sorry her pain became too great.
I am sorry for your loss & pain. Remember you could not have stopped this. Forgive yourself for any thinking like that.
Your whole family is in my prayers
Very sorry for your loss..
Hi Jim. I’m so sorry for your loss.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Michael passed the same way two years ago. That kind of pain is horrible.
Mourning and grieving is hard work…Rana’s spirit will be close…hugs as I re-read your post…I had no words…sending light and hugs ~ hedy
I’m so sorry Jim. Your loss is unfathomable. Thank you for sharing this part of your life. My daughter is transitioning and struggling terribly. I worry so much for her and all the other young adults in mental pain.
Transitioning is so, so hard. May your daughter have nothing but support and love as she figures herself out.
So sorry that poor Rana felt she could not face another year. Although our society has come a long way in accepting those who transition there is still a need for more support for these folks. I’m sure she appreciated your support and love during her short life. My prayers are going out to you.
At least all of us in her family supported her. I wish it had been enough,.
I’m so sorry for your loss. At a time like this we can find comfort from the scriptures about the coming resurrection to a paradise earth. John 5:28,29 gives us the hope that we will see her again soon. Revelation 21:4 tells us that death will be done away with forever. Please accept my deepest sympathies.
Rick Bell
Thank you Rick.
Hi Jim,
I’m deeply sorry for your loss. I really hope Rana trusted Jesus on her last moments.
I’m a Christian and I’ve been following your blog and your Flickr posts.
Jon
May your daughter rest in peace. My deepest condolences to you & family.
I just subscribed to your blog, and found a reference to the loss of your daughter in recent entries, so I went looking for this post to learn what happened. I offer my deepest condolences as a father myself, and hope you will continue to heal and find peace wherever you can. God bless.
Thank you so much, Gus.